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Can Reading A Book Change Your Life?

I have read a lot of books in my lifetime.  Quite a few have enriched me, taught me, challenged me,  entertained me…  Some have angered me.  But, I must admit that I had a hard time coming up with a specific book that actually changed my life.

Except….  Maybe a few books helped me develop my love for reading, and thus launched me into this habit of reading books.  So, in terms of what I do with my time, in that sense, reading books changed my life – and turned me into a book reader.

Anyway, I thought about this when I read this from Andrew Sullivan’s blog.  It is from a reader’s e-mail.  Whether you like Ayn Rand or not, this is quite a story about how a book changed one person’s life.

This is a longer “borrow” than usual.  But, I think it is worth reading.  And then we can all ask, which book actually changed our life?

Although I don’t agree with Objectivism as a philosophy, and I recognize the glaringly obvious flaws of Rand’s political ideas, its influence on me was very personal. And the other people I know who absolutely swear by her work, for most of them it is also a personal debt, not a political or philosophical one (I’ve personally never met a self-described objectivist in my life).

I grew up in an upper-middle class family in the suburbs of just-another-middle-American city. I was very smart. And like many kids born in my position, I became spoiled and bratty as I got older. Everything in my early life came way too easily – whether it was acing my math tests, or getting the new toy I wanted – and as a result, I entered my young adult years with a severe sense of entitlement. The world owed me something and I’d be damned if I ever had to work for it. I was a perennial underachiever, and any egging by my professors or parents to achieve more or do something magnificent or productive with my talent, I met with disdain and arrogance. How dare you tell me what to do? If things went wrong, it was never my fault because I didn’t try to begin with. If things went right, it was result of my pure genius and talent even though I didn’t try. I moped through the first 20 years of my life like this, avoiding failure and generally being an asshole about it.

Then I read Atlas Shrugged one spring break. I know it’s really cheesy to say this, but I became a new person overnight. It ignited a sense of responsibility and self-control in me that I had never been aware of. Instead of lecturing me about the virtues of achievement and taking responsibility and using your talent for good like my parents did, it SHOWED the virtues to me through Hank Rearden and Dagny and Francisco and Galt. Suddenly, I felt ashamed that I had gone through my whole life the way that I had. People have a responsibility to give life and society everything they’ve got. That’s the message I got. And I had been scoffing at that moral imperative from day one.

I immediately returned to school – a crappy small state school that I half-assed my way into – made straight A’s, transferred the next year to a prestigious private school in the Northeast, graduated Summa Cum Laude, started my own business and have never looked back. And again, this is so corny, but it’s true: I can point to that book as the moment it began. Sure, Ayn Rand is wrong about a lot of stuff. Of course the characters in the novel are totally idealized and unrealistic. But for me and where I was, it lit a fire under my ass that has never gone out. And I can unequivocally say that I’m a much better person for having read it.





Communications is Key!

Sara says:  Cheryl and I teach graduate students and we’ve discovered that many don’t write well.  It’s a rampant problem and when we mention it, some students get a real “deer in the headlights” look.  They don’t have a clue where to start.  Now, this isn’t going to be a rant about today’s youth not being able to write.  It’s about a leader’s responsibility to good communications.  The quizzical look from our students, whether it means “I don’t know what you are talking about” or “I don’t know what to do about it” is not a sufficient response.  A leader’s job – right up there with delivering results to the shareholder’s – is communicating.   Leaders must always be on the lookout for 1) the most effective ways to communicate and 2) the number of ways they can deliver the message.

Lou Gerstner who wrote about the turnaround of IBM, wrote in his book, Who Says Elephants Can’t Dance?,   “Personal leadership is about communication, openness, and willingness to speak often and honestly, and with respect for the intelligence of the reader or listener.”    I heard Gerstner tell an audience of IBM executives that, “you cannot over communicate.  You are responsible to communicate your vision in every memo, every conference call, every interview.”  If change in a company fails, look first to the leader and their ability (and tenacity) in articulating the change.

Cheryl offers: Our friend and ally blogger, Bob Morse, posted this question only a few days earlier in June: Q #184: Has the ability to write well become obsolete? Bob’s answer was “No, and I am convinced it never will.” I agree with Bob and Sara.  The responsibility to teach, practice, and role model good communications reside with leadership; be it the school system or in corporations. “Have you ever thought about the fact that the great philosopher Socrates had a student named Plato, and that Plato had a student named Aristotle?” This comes from the book, “If Aristotle Ran General Motors” by Tom Morris.  Morris goes on to say, “Given the right context of intimate and sustained association, greatness gives rise to greatness.” If that doesn’t inspire a teacher or leader to invest the time to teach their students/employees the value of clear, concise, and grammatically correct communication, I’m not sure it can be done!